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Past Questions

Question What would you say to a friend who’s feeling jealous and it’s really affecting their life?

Here are the following submitted answers:

Answer If a friend was feeling jealous and it was having a serious impact on their life, I would sit them down and have a civilized conversation with them. I would try to figure out exactly what sets her off and talk about possible solutions for keeping her jealousy in check, hoping that her jealous would no longer affect her life.

Question If you find yourself disagreeing with someone, what do you do to keep it from turning into a fight?

Here are the following submitted answers:

Answer Just say, “Okay we obviously don’t understand each other. So lets stop talking about this now, cool off and explain our sides later."

Answer If you find yourself disagreeing with someone, the most peaceful way to settle your differences or thoughts is to tell them you respect their ideas, but you disagree. If they begin to get mad, don’t do the same. Back away from them and give them time. Things will cool down.

Answer If you find yourself in this situation, you should either drop the subject before you know it could become too heated, if you’ve had this same issue before. You could also take a deep breath, ask your partner to explain their views without getting upset directly at you. After they have shown their view on the topic, express how you feel and discuss how you can resolve this problem.


Question What would you say to someone who is in a bad relationship, but keeps going out with the person because they think that person will change?

Here are the following submitted answers:

Answer Don't be with someone because you think they will change. People don't change overnight- it takes time and willpower. You cannot change someone unless they're willing to change, and if they don't think they're doing anything wrong then they are not going to change. You shouldn't be with them if they're not already what you're looking for. Don't be with someone for what they can be, but for who they already are.

Answer I would say to that person to get out of the relationship- as fast as they can. You shouldn't hold out on to the hope that the person that is treating you badly will change because, realistically, they won't unless they take a good look at themselves and realize that they need to change. If you keep going out with the person who treats you badly, you will continue to get hurt along the way.