I was wondering why you don’t have anything on your website for people in same sex relationships?
Relationship skills are a universal need. Everyone can benefit from them, at every stage of their life. The information on this website can be used by anyone and applied to all relationships.
I really like this guy, but he just wants to be friends. I can’t stop thinking about him and it’s driving me crazy. Help!
This is a common situation, and it’s a tough one. It’s important to realize that your feelings for him may be infatuation: “The state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion.” When you fall for someone, chemicals in your brain are triggered and released like a drug. You can’t think straight. It could take three months for this “love high” to fade away.
If you feel rejected, your self-esteem can suffer. Here’s some things you can try to boost your self-esteem and maybe help you deal with the way you’re feeling:
• Make a list of your positive traits and remind yourself of these every day.
• Be involved in activities that you enjoy that build you up.
• Know that every experience is a learning opportunity and this one will help you with more difficult situations later in your life.
• Accept that he may not the guy for you and being free means you’re available to find someone who will like you as much as you like him.
• Whenever a thought about him comes into your head, you could tell yourself to stop thinking about him and replace the thought with a different positive thought that makes you feel good.
• Understand that being friends with a nice guy is not a bad place to be. Think about it: you’re with him, probably having fun. It’s healthy to stay just friends while you’re in your teen years.
I was in a relationship for a long time with a guy who was very jealous and controlling. I had tried to break up with him a few times, but he’d convince me to get back together. This week I finally broke up with him for good and let him know that. Now he’s harassing me even though I told him that I’m never getting back together with him. I just don’t know what to do.
This person displays very unhealthy behaviors and it’s not OK. That’s great that you are clear with him about where you stand. No contact is the best approach. You should tell a parent, teacher, or counselor about the harassing. By informing an adult you may find the support you need. You’re not trying to get this boy in trouble, but it sounds like he needs help. You need to do what you need to do so you won’t be subjected to his behavior. If you feel you are in danger you should call the police or a domestic violence hotline. Under the “need help” page of this website, you will find the page “where to go for help”. You’ll find a comprehensive list of agencies that have the expertise to help you deal with abusive people.
My friends and I are always arguing about whether a guy and girl can be “just friends”. What do you think? Is it possible to have a close friendship with the opposite sex?
This is an age old question, and I am not sure there is an agreed upon answer in all of academia. I will attempt to shed some light on your debate. If we go to the root of this question we arrive at another question, are guys and girls different? The simple answer is yes but for a complex variety of reasons. But while guys and girls are quite different the same can be said about any two people. Whether a guy and girl can be friends depends entirely expectations they set for the relationship. Friends need to communicate honestly with each other and if feelings are becoming “more than friend” it should be talked about. From there the decision can be made whether to stay friends or try out dating. The caution here is that if you try out dating and it doesn’t work out it can be very difficult to go back to the way things were.